When I get one of those “form” invitations to connect with someone I do not know, I ignore it. From what I read and hear from other LinkedIn users, this is a pet peeve for many. If people say I’m a “friend” or that they have done business with me and they have not, I am not only annoyed but have no reason to connect with them. Sometimes I will check their LinkedIn profiles to confirm that I do not know them or to figure out why they want to connect with me. Often the profile will be incomplete, which is an indicator to me that the person is not really serious about using LinkedIn.
So how do you connect with others for mutually beneficial relationships? The first order of business is to ensure your profile is complete and up to date. Do you include a professional headshot? Is the summary a good indicator of your expertise? Does your experience section include your major contributions? Have you completed the other areas including Education and Groups and Associations? Have you researched and joined LinkedIn groups in your industry that interest you? Do you actively participate in the question and answer sections on those sites? Another way to get new connections is to ask your existing connections to introduce you to people in their network with whom you would like to connect.
Once you find someone you want to connect with, do NOT use the standard invitation; personalize it. If you already know them or have done business with them, that’s easy. If you are members of the same group or have seen or responded to one of their questions, be sure to let them know. According to Tony Faustino, author of Social Media ReInvention, “If there is no information exchanged indicating why we would be able to build a mutually beneficial relationship, it indicates this person is only interested in the value of my connections for their personal agenda.”
Once a person agrees to connect with you, always send them a thank-you message. Good manners makes a difference!